A good friend of mine asked me how it was going with my blog. (I have another website called How To Be Dapper) I said it was going okay. I’d hit a plateau of email subscribers and the traffic wasn’t really picking up. ‘What do you need to do to improve it?’ he said. I needed to make some videos. ‘Why haven’t you done it yet?’ I needed some equipment and to learn how to edit videos. My reasons as to why I hadn’t done it sounded lame. I realised I needed some accountability to take action. I’d read from several sources (Tim Ferriss, Nerd Fitness and Timothy Marc) that sizeable cash bets are powerful motivators. So I said, ‘How about if I don’t put up a video on my site by the end of the month, then I owe you £500?’ £500 is a lot of money. I have it but it …[Read More]
I’m an anxious person. I’m a happy person but I can also be an anxious person. Those who know me, know that I have OCD as well as general worry about things. My OCD is pretty standard as things go. I have a routine upon leaving the house. I check the balcony door is locked. I check the hob. I check the taps are shut off in the kitchen. I turn off all power sockets. I check that the shower is off. I check that the bathroom taps are shut off. Then I get to the front door. I check this is locked by pushing the door 30 times. This must sound utterly insane to someone who has no OCD tendencies. And it is. I know it’s crazy but still I do it. Why do I continue to do it? Because it gives me reassurance that it’s done. I’ve been …[Read More]
Is anyone proud of themselves anymore? Does anyone still have a sense of pride? Two things happened to me recently that made me think I’d let my sense of pride slip. I was at the train station in a cafe with Angelique. There’s a guy who’s worked at the station for years. We say hello to each other but we’ve never really had a conversation. This day he decides to say more. “Young lady, you must be a very good cook!” I can see where this is going. “This young man used to be slim, good-looking and very well-dressed. Not anymore”, he said pointing at my belly. “I used to say to my son, who’s at university now, look at this man. Be more like him. I don’t say that anymore.” Ouch. The next thing was I was visiting my dad who now lives on his own since my mum …[Read More]
Every man’s jacket (suit or blazer) needs a pocket square. Without it, your jacket just looks unfinished. I want to show you how to do a pocket square, the easiest way and the way that I do it. Check out the video above to learn more.
Unlike most of the books on this site, what I took from The Rise of Theodore Roosevelt isn’t so much about learning, but much more about inspiration. Theodore (Teddy) Roosevelt led one of the most action-packed lives in history, filled with vigour, achievement, joy, suffering and overcoming. This incredible biography of Roosevelt by Edmund Morris is heavily detailed and a work of intense scholarship but is as readable as a novel. This is actually the first of a three part series by Morris on Roosevelt. (The second being Theodore Rex and the final being Colonel Roosevelt) The Rise of Theodore Roosevelt charts the period from birth to the Presidency. What can we learn from The Rise of Theodore Roosevelt? That life is more than long enough Most people complain that life is too short. They can’t fit everything in. There’s never enough time etc. Teddy’s life shows that all to be bullshit. He …[Read More]