“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results” attributed to Albert Einstein “For there is no doubt that the most radical division that it is possible to make of humanity is that which splits it into two classes of creatures: those who make great demands on themselves, piling up difficulties and duties; and those who demand nothing special of themselves, but for whom to live is to be every moment what they already are, without imposing on themselves any effort towards perfection; mere buoys that float on the waves.” ― José Ortega y Gasset, The Revolt of the Masses No man is an Island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the Continent, a part of the main; if a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe is the less, as well as if a promontory were, as …[Read More]
Everyone agrees that you should be yourself. Just be yourself, they say. In all situations. but wtf does this actually mean? Possible meanings: Don’t try to be someone else or something else other than you are. Live and act with no difference between the actual you and the you that you present to the world How can we achieve this? Tell people what you really think about everything – okay now this is really hard. If you’re a liberal and identify as such, having the odd racist, sexist, homophobic thought is going to be hard to articulate. Wear what you want, read what you want, listen to what you want – don’t give a fuck about what you think others might think of you Don’t try and be cool on social media – present warts and all Rinse and repeat, everyday.
You guys have got to check out these books. Following his formula for crushing it and building my personal brand, this blog is going to be about road-testing self-improvement and life hacks. Stuff like minimalism, getting up early, getting a six pack, learning new things, marketing and making more money. At the moment, I’m trying to do 30 days of daily exercise. It’s currently day 4 and it’s 4 x 25 push-ups. Join me in this challenge and let me know how you’re going!
In a nutshell, the 80/20 rule refers to the fact that 80% of the result comes from 20% of the inputs. The remaining 20% of the result comes from 80% of the inputs. In other words, some things have a disproportionate impact relative to other things. For example, diet and exercise matter to losing weight but diet matters much more than exercise. Most of the returns in a fund come from a small minority of its investments. 80/20 is around us all the time. Looking good is no exception. We saw in the previous post what the elements are to looking better and looking good. These are not all equally weighted. Some have a disproportionate impact on how good you look. For example, being slim and athletic will impact the overall result much more than having good taste; even though having good taste will help you in your quest, it’s …[Read More]
Other websites will give you lots of tips about looking better. They’ll tell you that you should know 10 different ways to do your pocket square. Or that you should wear oxford button down shirts. Or that you should work on your confidence. Or that you should increase your testosterone. All these different tactics. It’s easy to get lost in them and then you switch off. You carry on as you were before. No changes and no improvements. I genuinely think that you switch off because it got too complicated and too mixed up. Too many tactics and no cohesive strategy and objective. Let me give you the objective and then the strategy (feel free to disagree too) Our objective is to look better than we do now and to do so in a way that doesn’t take over our lives. We don’t want to be over-groomed and over-preened. We …[Read More]
This is a fresh start. Howtobedapper was getting too complicated. In the last two and a half years, I’ve blogged about pocket squares, suits and colour matching. Now I know that style-wise, it’s just about keeping it simple. Style and looking good is really, really simple. Lots of bloggers will try to tell you that it’s complicated. If that’s what you’re looking for, then go and check out their blogs. But if you’re looking for simple, straightforward ways to be more dapper and stylish, then stick around. I’m going to show you how to look better and dress better. And all as simple as possible. Because it is simple and it’s FUN. This blog is for you if You know you want to look better. You know that you could make improvements. You know that looking good can help you in life. You don’t like making things more complicated than …[Read More]
This is my understanding of how Bitcoin works (simple) How I bought my first Dash cryptocurrency Bitcoin at USD 5,500. Is it too late to get in? This is the easiest way for you to get into Bitcoin right now Should you ever buy ICO tokens on the secondary market? Is OmiseGo a good project and should you buy OmiseGo (OMG)? Is Augur a good project and should you buy Augur (REP)? Warning against using the full Ethereum node wallet (Lost my ETH!) How I bought my first Litecoins, using Exodus wallet, Shapeshift and Changelly Setting up my new Trezor hardware Bitcoin wallet The biggest obstacle I can see that might block mass cryptocurrency adoption Testing out the Exodus Wallet Why am I buying Monero (XMR)? What do I look for in buying cryptocurrencies? Problems with my Ethereum (ETH) node wallet and next steps How I finally bought my first …[Read More]
I’ve written before about pushing through your comfort zone and trying something new. This applies to me too. I’ve longed after a pastel linen jacket for a while now. I know that Moss Bros jackets fit me well off the rack so I went back to their website and I was torn between a light blue linen jacket and a pink linen jacket. I thought the pink one looked great but I was unsure as whether I could pull it off. How versatile is a pink jacket? Well it works with white shirts for sure. And also with light blue shirts. Maybe not with pink shirts because there’d be little difference or contrast between the shirt colour and the jacket colour. This then is less versatile than my light green tweed jacket (also from Moss Bros) which would work with all of the above shirt colours. Trousers-wise, navy chinos or …[Read More]
Last week, I was out with one of my best mates. The conversation moved onto one of his friends with whom I had explored hiring. Let’s call him Bob. He had set up a consultancy and I thought that the company I work for might benefit from his insight. My friend said that Bob felt I was too nice. In fact, so nice, that he felt himself wanting to take advantage of me. To fuck me over. I was surprised. But what really surprised me was that Bob is himself a very nice guy. Here he was saying that, even as a nice guy himself, the fact that I was being so nice was enough to trigger an aggressive response. He wanted to rip my throat out with his teeth. Can you be too nice? Of course you can. Think of Pollyanna (look it up). Am I too nice? It definitely …[Read More]
I’ve been thinking a lot about diminishing marginal returns. In a nutshell, diminishing marginal returns is the idea that we get less benefit the more we do something. Imagine yourself at McDonald’s. That first Big Mac you’ve been craving is awesome. So is the second one, but less awesome than the first. The third is good but less good than the second one. And so on. By the time you get to the fifth, you feel sick. Each successive Big Mac had smaller benefits than the previous one. Diminishing marginal returns. I had this thought on a recent Instagram uploading binge. My Instagram is all about food and travel. I looked at other Instagrams I follow and they’re all about fitness or travel or food. At what point are the returns on a passion or obsession diminished to pointlessness? Is chasing the 55th photo …[Read More]