I recently discovered Mel Robbins on Instagram. She puts out great Instagram content such as: “What would @oprah do?” – That simple question is the key to making better decisions. It’s what I always ask myself when I’m weighing options and have a tough decision to make. By asking “what would @oprah do”, I literally CHANGE the way I think. It’s called the “power of objectivity” and in this video I share this powerful tool with you. – When I consider any problem from Oprah’s perspective, I silence my emotions, think creatively and have the ability be more strategic about the choices in front of me. It works like a charm. – Now it’s your turn. Who do you admire? Tag them. The next time you have a decision to make, stop and ask yourself what would they do. A post shared by Mel Robbins (@melrobbinslive) on Aug 23, 2018 …[Read More]
The legendary Jocko Willink says that Discipline Equals Freedom. I take this to mean that accepting and embracing discipline and structure in your life will take away the need for willpower as well as paralysis by analysis and procrastination. In recent days, I’ve been feeling good and I think it’s down to making decisions, quick decisions and good decisions about things big and small. Deciding yesterday in a Waterloo pub that I’d book us in for lunch in 25 minutes in St. John and Uber it there was pretty good. (Angelique seemed to like the decisiveness) And today, we took inspiration from my sister and decided to sell our flat and buy a bigger one. It’s a decision we’ve put off and off, but having made it in 5 minutes of discussion in the car on the way to dim sum with my Dad, was decisive for sure. Of course, …[Read More]
Everyone agrees that you should be yourself. Just be yourself, they say. In all situations. but wtf does this actually mean? Possible meanings: Don’t try to be someone else or something else other than you are. Live and act with no difference between the actual you and the you that you present to the world How can we achieve this? Tell people what you really think about everything – okay now this is really hard. If you’re a liberal and identify as such, having the odd racist, sexist, homophobic thought is going to be hard to articulate. Wear what you want, read what you want, listen to what you want – don’t give a fuck about what you think others might think of you Don’t try and be cool on social media – present warts and all Rinse and repeat, everyday.
Last week, I was out with one of my best mates. The conversation moved onto one of his friends with whom I had explored hiring. Let’s call him Bob. He had set up a consultancy and I thought that the company I work for might benefit from his insight. My friend said that Bob felt I was too nice. In fact, so nice, that he felt himself wanting to take advantage of me. To fuck me over. I was surprised. But what really surprised me was that Bob is himself a very nice guy. Here he was saying that, even as a nice guy himself, the fact that I was being so nice was enough to trigger an aggressive response. He wanted to rip my throat out with his teeth. Can you be too nice? Of course you can. Think of Pollyanna (look it up). Am I too nice? It definitely …[Read More]
Look in the mirror before you leave the house. Stand there for a second. What impression do you think you give to the outside world? Are you well-groomed? Have you had a haircut recently? Have you shaved or tidied up your beard? Are you standing upright with your head up and your shoulders back or are you slightly slouched over? Is your outfit appropriate for work? Is your outfit fit to face customers and clients? Will your co-workers think you’ve made an effort today? Do you stand out or do you blend into the background? Is your shirt ironed? Are your shoes polished? Have you cut your fingernails? Have you brushed your teeth? Have you flossed? Are you wearing fresh underwear? Do your socks match? Are you wearing a nice watch? Are you carrying excess body fat? Is your skin clear and healthy? …[Read More]